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I had abortion after my father raped me, says daughter of Mamas and Papas singer John Phillips |
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 The daughter of the lead singer of The Mamas And The Papas had a long-term incestuous relationship with her father, she revealed yesterday.
Mackenzie Phillips said her father John first raped her when she was 19 - on the night before her wedding.
She also recalled how she became pregnant - but had an abortion after not being sure whether the baby belonged to her father or her husband, who had no idea about the secret affair.
But as her life began to spiral out of control on drugs, the sex became consensual for almost a decade.
Miss Phillips, now 49, also accused her father of introducing her to heroin when she was still a teenager, missing the vein when he tried to inject her and turning her arm numb.
The bombshell family secrets were unveiled in a tell-all memoir, High On Arrival, published yesterday in the United States.
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You will hurt me NO MORE. |
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Names have been changed
Dear L
My last question is this? Seven years ago when I came home from the UK, A took me aside on my short visit with you. She told me that you had rewritten your will and decided to leave everything to her. In my naivety I did not ask you about this because you know how meek I used to be. My last visit, the same thing happened.
Now, old man, why would your wife lie? So since you could not tell me the TRUTH in our last conversation over the phone, that I and my brother have been disowned, I make the following statement via email, and valid in a court of law.
I, L, hereby declare on the 9th October 2007 that I divorce myself from the man, S, who has not been a father figure or a dad for the last fifteen years. I declare that I have been emotionally and physically abused by this man since the age of three for my speech impediment and other deficiencies due to meningitis.
I separate myself from you, since in your utter lack of accountability, your fervent use of intimidation, your aggressive and abusive nature, and your over sensitivity to spoken words, you had made me a victim of your horrible anger. You did not prepare me for life, you stunted me.
I now break the silence for all those victims out there, who like me have been told they were loved while physically being hated by a parent.
I disown you.
I will never again call on your name, even though through my meningitis you gave me to God, and then went on to abuse me my whole life, and hated me for my speech, and did torment me and afflict me with gruesome punishments for stuttering.
Did you not think that when the master had abused his dog for so long that the dog would not one day jump up and bite the master most severely?
BUT I AM NOT A DOG - I WAS YOUR SON UNTIL TODAY.
My story will be known. I will tell it plainly, so that those with abusive fathers like you, who themselves have been oppressed will come to freedom.
You are a six foot eleven giant. Why would you slap a broad paint brush full of paint through my face at the age of five? Why would you break a remote control on my head for not talking fluently? Why would you threaten to kill us if we disobeyed you?
Why couldn't you apologize to me and my brother all those years ago, and I would have had peace in my continual forgiveness toward you. But your obliviousness to your accountability for the lives you have affected has raised my voice and not for my life but for those who have been tormented by their parents.
I WILL NOT BE SILENT ANYMORE. YOU WILL NEVER RAISE YOUR ANGER OR YOUR VOICE TO ME AGAIN.
HOW DOES THE PARENT BLAME THE CHILD, AS YOU SO PLAINLY HAVE MADE CLEAR TO ME?
You never apologized, and you did not even remember our birthdays, even when year after year we remembered yours.
IF YOU TRY TO CONTACT ME, I WILL RESTRAIN YOU LEGALLY, I HAVE SENT COPIES TO MY FRIENDS AND FAMILY TO BEAR WITNESS TO THIS EMAIL - YOU HAVE NO BEARING ON MY LIFE ANYMORE.
LEAVE ME ALONE.
LET THE TRUE JUDGE, JUDGE BETWEEN YOU AND I. |
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Why Do Women Stay in Abusive Relationships? |
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The reasons women stay in abusive relationships are very complicated. There are a wide range of emotional feelings that allow the abuse to continue and prevent the woman from leaving. Here are a few reasons that women stay in an abusive relationship:
Fear - Women fear the physical harm that might come if they attempt to leave.
Love - Women may truly have deep feelings for the abusive partner.
Promises - Promises that this abuse will never happen again.
Abuse = Love - Confusion between being loved and being controlled by their partner.
Guilt - Being made to think that the abuse is their fault, that they have the problem.
Not Being Believed - A strong fear that nobody will believe them if they speak out against the abuse.
Thinking They Can Change Them - The belief that over time the woman can change the abusive partner.
Low Self-Esteem - After being in an abusive relationship there is a feeling that they can do no better than their current relationship.
Being Alone - To end the relationship could mean a loss of mutual friends, relatives and others associated with the relationship.
Financial - Money, children and no place to go also hold women in these relationships. |
 Mindy McCready's life story reads like a country music song.
At 18, Mindy left her childhood home in Florida and headed to Nashville armed with a few karaoke tapes and a dream. After just a year, Mindy scored a big-time record deal, recording "Guys Do It All the Time" on her debut album, Ten Thousand Angels. But three years after being crowned country music's new sweetheart—some even dubbing her "the next Shania Twain"—Mindy's life began to unravel.
She lost her record deal and ended a rocky engagement to Lois & Clark heartthrob Dean Cain. In just the past year, Mindy has made headlines for multiple run-ins with the law. She's been arrested for DUI, prescription drug fraud, and involvement with an alleged con artist. In May, Mindy says she was nearly beaten to death by her boyfriend, Billy McKnight.
Taken From: Oprah.com
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 Every 15 seconds, a woman is beaten by her husband or partner in the United States. Yvette Cade never thought she'd be included in this statistic…then she married Roger Hargrave.
When Yvette first met Hargrave, she says he always smiled and had a "great personality." As a single parent raising a young daughter, she says she also admired the care and concern he showed for his son from a previous relationship. Yvette soon married Hargrave, but their happiness began to fade after only a few months.
Carol Bryant, Yvette's aunt and the one who introduced the couple, says Hargrave started drinking a lot after the wedding and then began verbally abusing her niece. "You couldn't even call their home without having to listen to him in the background making vulgar remarks and screaming and hollering," Carol says.
Yvette's family feared that Hargrave's erratic behavior would turn violent.
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