Abuse is no excuse was founded by Caryl Wyatt , who is also the author of the book LOOK ME IN THEY EYE. This is an organisation that has a mission to educate everyone on the devastation caused to the victim, perpetrator and most of all the children of domestic violence.
We aim to develope support groups for all concerned. We all know that abused children often become abusive or marry abusive partners. We would like to see the police, who deal with these cases, properly educated as to how to deal with the situation when they are called out.
PREVENTION AND REHABILITATION IS WHAT WE STRIVE FOR.
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"One of the best personal odyssey stories I have ever read"
Dr. Sam Vaknin, author of Malignant Self Love
Love addiction is every bit as addictive as any narcotic; ask me, I have been there. I knew I couldn’t stay in an unhappy, abusive and destructive marriage. I didn’t just love my husband; I was obsessed with him. I believed that if I stayed and loved him enough, he would change—but I was wrong.
All addictions escalate and can result in death—mine was no different. Broken bones and a broken heart, private clinics and prison, would not stop me from going back, time and again for more of the same. I falsely believed I was powerless to leave.
Out on the street with no money, without work and nowhere to go, after a failed third marriage, I didn’t make the choice to leave—but I did make the choice to survive.
I chose to learn and understand the nature of domestic violence, its root and its cure.
All addictions are ‘one day at a time’ journeys to recovery—join me on mine.
"This is a story that I will never forget"
Alison, author of I Have Life
This amazing tale of surviving abuse retails for R165.00 plus postage.
For more information on this book, or her inspirational public speaking workshops against abuse please contact Caryl by clicking here.
To buy this amazing book please click here.
To contact Caryl or to discuss your own experiences please visit our group on .
It is that time of the year again when hopefully all South Africans will sit up and be aware that ABUSE continues 365 days of the year. Roughly every 6 minutes a women in South Africa is being beaten by the man who says he loves her. We know this subject is depressing and we know that life goes on for most of us, but if there is one thing you can do to help us continue in this work just pay attention during this time and reach out to those who need your help. Let our hearts not grow cold to the plight of others, when we are happy.
1. Time to get rid of the things you don’t need, then have a good clean up and pass on all those items to a shelter.
2. Get together with a group of friends over lunch, share a glass of wine and ask for a donation from everyone.
3. Meet with all your friends to collect all your unwanted clothes etc and take them to a shelter. Put your compassion in action.
To contact Caryl or to discuss your own experiences please click here.
This months happenings:
Many people contact us asking how they can help, as earth angels.
One of the most important things we need right now are
1. Do you have a circle of influence, to be able to approach a sponsor for this organisation.
2. Are you willing to host an event for the purpose of raising funds.
3. Would you like to sponsor this organisation as a Corporate sponsor or as a private individual.
4. Are you able to organise a function at a school, sports club etc a fete, fashion show, raffle.
5. Do you have a data base that we could contact with information about the organisation.
2. Servamus: Safety And Security E-zine.
Check out this community based South African Safety and Security E-zine which will be doing a very informative article called "Domestic Violence – the crime behind closed doors" during October and November.
For more information please click here.
3. Please Support Abuse Is No Excuse.
On a daily basis we have pleas from abuse victims to help them get out of an abusive relationship.
Without the publics support in our fight against abuse we cannot help these families.
Up until now P.A.I.N.E has been funded privately and there has been only so much we can do to help a few victims. With 1 in 3 women in South Africa being abused, MANY victims are falling through the cracks.
PLEASE make a donation TODAY! Every cent goes towards the fight against abuse and providing professional services to help victims of abuse.
For more information please contact us.
4. Advertise with Us.
If you would like to advertise on our website or with any of our other projects please contact us.